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May 01, 2026

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GIRLHOOD / A Late-30s Girl Walks Into Sephora…

A Late-30s Girl Walks Into Sephora…

A Late-30s Girl Walks Into Sephora…

Anyone who knows me knows I am low-maintenance when it comes to beauty and personal care products. My holy grail lineup? The CeraVe Hydrating Facial Cleanser (yasss, queen) and EltaMD's tinted, oil-free sunscreen (truly, the G.O.A.T. in my humble opinion).

I’ve always been an acne-girlie, so tretinoin and I have been BFFs for a longggg time. Because of that, I haven’t worried much about “anti-aging,” one of the very few perks of being perpetually acne-prone. But now that I’m in my late thirties, I’m starting to notice that a little under-eye cover-up could go a long way.

So today, I ventured into Sephora. Does that store give anyone else hives? Between the lighting, the endless shades, and the too-cool-for-me twenty-somethings, I felt wildly out of my depth. I stood in front of a wall of Kosas concealers, squinting at labels like “neutral olive” and “light medium cool,” wondering when shopping for makeup became an exercise in self-doubt.

A fellow millennial next to me laughed, equally overwhelmed. We bonded over our confusion, shrugged, and went on our separate ways — one (potentially matching) concealer richer, still none the wiser.

Walking out, I realized maybe that’s what getting older is like: figuring things out bit by bit, celebrating the small wins, and occasionally, standing in Sephora wondering how the hell you ended up there... all while letting yourself laugh through it.

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