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The Great Lock-In (A Trend I Can Actually Get Behind)

December 4, 2025
The Great Lock-In (A Trend I Can Actually Get Behind)

When I first heard about “The Great Lock-In,” I braced for another internet challenge built to make us feel inadequate. But, believe it or not, this one feels… reasonable. The idea is simple: spend the last stretch of the year tightening up the habits that support you — not in a dramatic self-reinvention way, but in a “let’s steady the ship a little” way.

Social media is full of people documenting these micro-shifts:

"I think that the best thing you can do for yourself is to have the audacity to want more than what everyone else around you has settled for." -@audrey_fit

"Please know that it's okay to take three months to lock in on rest, healing, financial savings, and softness." -@twelve21am

And my personal favorite: “If I could stay committed to an oversized mama's boy, I can stay committed to showing up for myself” -@chelseyfromladder

It all feels refreshingly honest, a trend that acknowledges growth doesn’t have to mean pushing harder or becoming a hyper-optimized version of yourself. Healing counts. Rest counts. Choosing a different path for yourself counts.

I get it. During my fertility journey, I learned that the only manageable way forward was one day at a time. Not in a motivational-poster sense, but in a survival sense. You focus on the next right thing, the one step you can actually take, and you let the rest go. In a strange way, The Great Lock-In echoes that mindset: small, steady choices instead of a dramatic overhaul.

And maybe that’s why I’ve slipped into my own version without even realizing it. About a month ago, I committed to Pilates twice a week — not to get smaller, but to get myself out of the house, because working, sleeping, and attempting to exercise in the same four walls was starting to break my brain. It’s not glamorous, but leaving my house for that one hour has made everything feel a little quieter, a little less compressed. It’s one of the few moments in my week where my brain actually gets to be in one place at a time.

What I like most about The Great Lock-In is that it isn’t asking us to reinvent ourselves by January. It’s simply reminding us to look at our lives with a little more honesty. What’s helping? What isn’t? And what tiny shift might make tomorrow feel just a touch more manageable? It’s a reset: quiet, steady, and actually doable.

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