Friendship Is a Rising Tide

"A rising tide lifts all boats."

Someone said that to me in the early days of Rescripted, and it stuck.

Something to know about me: I’m a girl’s girl to my core. Maybe once, in middle school, I claimed, “I just get along better with guys” (didn’t we all?). But by high school, my girlfriends were my lifelines. Cheerleading, softball, musical theatre — it was never just about winning or performing; it was about the inside jokes, the post-practice hangouts, and that feeling of belonging.

The thing about girlhood is that it teaches you early on what really matters: showing up for each other. Every day, it becomes clearer to me that we should be celebrating our friends not just for the big, ‘expected’ milestones like marriage or babies, but for the quieter, courageous moments: leaving a bad relationship, running a marathon, starting a new business, or taking a leap they’ve been scared to take. Cheering for each other in those moments is the heart of friendship, the kind that carries you through messy breakups, toddler meltdowns, job changes, and all the unexpected twists and turns of your 30s. 

That’s why I love the idea of a “rising tide.” When one of us wins, we all win. When someone takes a step forward, it makes the path a little bit wider for everyone else. Life is bigger than any single rivalry, and there’s (quite literally) room for all of us. Because life, like friendship, like girlhood, isn’t a zero-sum game.

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