How Screen Time Is Affecting Your Relationships (And What to Do About It)
Can we talk about how our screens are quietly reshaping the way we connect with the people we actually care about? Because I’ve felt it too: scrolling while half-listening to your partner, glancing at Instagram during dinner, texting while your kid’s showing you something cool…it’s like screens are this inevitable third wheel in all our relationships.
Research shows that when screen time becomes the default way we interact — or worse, a distraction in face-to-face moments — it can create emotional distance and even conflict. There’s a real phenomenon called phubbing (phone + snubbing), where ignoring someone in favor of your device leaves the other person feeling undervalued or ignored — and that can erode trust and satisfaction in relationships over time.
It makes sense when you think about it: quality time isn’t just about proximity, it’s about presence. Constant notifications and scrolling can fragment attention and reduce real, meaningful conversation, even when the other person is right there. And beyond romantic relationships, this tech interference shows up in family interactions too, where phones at the dinner table or during playtime can unintentionally signal that the screen matters more than the people you’re with.
Screens don’t have to be the enemy — intention is. Setting simple boundaries (like device-free dinners, charging phones outside the bedroom, or agreed “no-scroll” time with your partner) also helps reclaim space for real connection. (And have you heard of the Brick? I’ve been seeing a lot about this, ironically, online.) Think of it as digital mindfulness: you’re choosing people over pings, and our relationships can thrive on that.
Ask Clara:
"How do I limit my screentime?"