Sexual wellness goes beyond physical health — it's about feeling empowered and confident in your body.
Sexual wellness is a huge part of our overall health and happiness — but it often gets brushed under the rug. For a lot of us, talking about sexual health can feel awkward or even embarrassing, which might keep us from seeking the care, information, or support we need. But when you feel empowered to understand and prioritize your sexual well-being, it can lead to better relationships, a more connected sense of self, and a richer life. And who doesn't want that?
Let’s think about a woman who’s felt disconnected from her body. Maybe she didn’t know how to communicate her sexual needs, or thought something was “wrong” with her because she wasn’t feeling fulfilled. Over time, she realized she wasn’t alone — lots of women feel the same way, and there is help out there. That realization helped her get her confidence back, and kick-started a path to self-discovery that was exciting and joyful. This guide is here to help every woman start her own sexual wellness journey, no matter where you're at in life.
What is sexual wellness?
Sexual wellness isn’t just about proper hygiene or avoiding illness — it’s about feeling good in your body, understanding your desires, setting boundaries, and having access to solid education and care. For women, it means owning your sexual health and exploring what works for you, without guilt or shame.
Sexual wellness isn’t about how often you have sex or whether you’re always orgasmic. It’s about feeling in control of your sexual health and well-being — whether that’s being clear about what you want, seeking pleasure, or taking care of your reproductive health. At the end of the day, it’s about understanding that your sexuality is a core part of who you are, and it deserves to be nurtured, explored, and celebrated.
Components of sexual wellness: A holistic approach
Why regular sexual health check-ups matter
Regular sexual health check-ups are key not just for sexual wellness, but for your overall health. These visits usually include STI screenings, pap smears, and discussions about contraception and family planning. They might feel uncomfortable, but they’re essential for catching problems early and preventing bigger issues down the road.
Your healthcare provider is there to support you, not judge you. Find someone who makes you feel safe and comfortable enough to talk openly about your sexual health. Whether you’re dealing with pain during sex, changes in libido, or other concerns, it’s totally okay to bring these things up during your appointments.
Getting to know your body and what feels good to you
A big part of sexual wellness is becoming familiar with your own body. This includes understanding what feels good, what doesn’t, and noticing how things change over time. Self-exploration (yes, including masturbation!) can be an important part of understanding your sexual health.
Remember: every woman is different, and there is no “right” way to experience sexuality. What matters most is that you feel safe, comfortable, and confident in your own skin. The more you learn about what works for you, the better you can communicate your needs — whether with a partner or solo. Embracing your pleasure means healthier, happier sexual experiences, both physically and emotionally.
Mental health and sexual wellness: They go hand in hand
Sexual wellness and mental health are closely connected. Stress, anxiety, depression, or past trauma can seriously impact sexual satisfaction and function. It’s not uncommon for women to feel less desire or pleasure when they’re emotionally stressed, and that’s totally okay.
Integrating sexual wellness into your routine
Communication and relationships: Healthy connection is everything
Strong communication is key to good sexual health, especially in relationships. Talking openly with your partner about your desires and concerns is essential for a healthy sexual connection. It’s normal for partners to have different needs, and it’s totally okay to advocate for yourself.
According to Rodrigues, “Communication within couples can expand beyond what feels good and what doesn’t feel good. Discussing topics like initiation, schedules and rhythm around sex, and things that get you ‘in the mood’ are just as valuable in cultivating an erotic connection.”
For those in a long-term relationship, this might mean stepping out of the routine, trying new things, or even seeking couples counseling if things feel stuck. The goal is creating a space where both of you feel comfortable sharing your needs and exploring new ways to connect. What works for one couple might not work for another, and that’s perfectly fine. The key is mutual respect and openness.
Addressing common sexual health concerns
A lot of women face challenges like painful intercourse, trouble reaching orgasm, or changes in libido. These are common and totally treatable issues, so don’t be afraid to talk to your healthcare provider about them.
Infections such as yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, and urinary tract infections (UTIs) are also common and can impact your sexual health, causing discomfort or irritation. Maintaining proper vaginal hygiene — such as using mild, unscented soaps, avoiding douching, and wearing breathable cotton underwear — can help prevent these infections. If you experience symptoms like unusual discharge, itching, or a strong odor, it’s important to see a healthcare provider for proper diagnosis and treatment.
Hormonal changes (like those during pregnancy, postpartum, or menopause) can also affect your sexual health. These fluctuations can lead to vaginal dryness or discomfort during intercourse, but there are treatments available to help manage these issues, such as lubricants or hormone therapy. Your body evolves over time, and understanding how these changes impact your sexuality is a powerful step toward maintaining your health and satisfaction.
Safe sex: A must for sexual wellness
Safe sex isn’t just about avoiding pregnancy — it’s about protecting yourself from STIs. Knowing your options for contraception and choosing the right method for you is essential. Regular STI testing is crucial, even for those in long-term relationships, because many STIs don’t show symptoms. Testing is the only way to be sure, and catching infections early can prevent long-term problems and reduce the risk to your partner.
Embracing pleasure at any age
Sexual wellness isn’t just for your 20s and 30s; it’s important at any age. “If you have recently had surgery or experienced childbirth and are experiencing pain with intercourse, finding a pelvic floor therapist can help with rebuilding the muscular and physical support for comfortable sex," explains Rodrigues.
While our body and sexual needs may change as we get older, that doesn’t mean sexual wellness should take a backseat. Whether you’re navigating perimenopause or adjusting to new life stages, staying connected with your body, your partner, and your care team will help ensure that you keep sexual health a priority as you age.
Building your sexual wellness toolkit
- Healthcare team: Find an OB/GYN and primary care provider who make you feel heard and respected. Consider adding a pelvic floor therapist or sex therapist if needed.
- Physical tools: Stock up on basics like gentle bath soap, cotton underwear, and safe lubricants. If you're sexually active, keep condoms handy.
- Digital resources: Download a period tracking app and bookmark reliable sexual health websites (like Rescripted!) for easy reference.
- Self-care items: Consider investing in items that enhance your comfort and pleasure, like a vibrator or intimate moisturizer.
- Mental health support: Keep contact info for therapists specializing in sexual health, and save helpful meditation apps or journaling prompts.
Sexual wellness resources and support
You don't have to figure this out alone. Here's where to find reliable support:
Healthcare resources
Educational resources
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- Certified sex educators' social media accounts, i.e. Shan Boodram
- Evidence-based sexual health podcasts, like Sex With Emily
- Rescripted's sexual health articles and guides
Community support
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- Local women's health support groups
- Online communities focused on sexual wellness, i.e. Kimbritive
- LGBTQ+ inclusive sexual health resources, like @queersextherapy
You've got this!
Kristyn Hodgdon is the Co-Founder and Chief Creative Officer at Rescripted.
